Safe and Sound, Episode 120

What if we could learn to behold one another’s wholeness, rather than focussing so narrowly on the aspects of others that we fear or desire? To trust in one another’s vastness and depth instead of relating to one another from defensiveness or a desire to control? It would, for sure, give us a way to know one another with a greater kindness and a greater truthfulness than we do now. Can you imagine how it would be to greet one another – partners, children, friends, colleagues – that way? A conversation about trust, welcome and truthfulness, with Lizzie Winn and Justin Wise of Thirdspace.

This is Turning Towards Life, a weekly live 30 minute conversation hosted by Thirdspace in which Justin Wise and Lizzie Winn dive deep into big questions of human living. Find us on FaceBook to watch live and join in the lively conversation on this episode. We’re also on YouTube, and as a podcast on Apple, Google and Spotify.

Here’s our source for this week, which was written specially for us by our friend and colleague Neena Sims, in response to our conversation in Episode 119.

Safe and Sound

Have you noticed how you and I can be around our young ones? How we look at saplings, at puppies, at babies?
No, that’s not quite right, we don’t look, we behold

I wonder, would you please behold me that way – just for a while? Better still for a lifetime

I don’t mean the cooing or the smiling
or the way you might tickle me and tell me I’m delicious – delightful as that can be

I’m talking about the infinite ways you can bring yourself, all of yourself, to all of me

The way you know that I’m whole – safe and sound – just as I am

The way you know that I’m still growing, a forever unfinished body of hope

The way you can be with my sadness, my rages, my strokes of genius

The way you respond to my small-minded, hidden acts of malice and my colossal acts of kindness with ferocious, truthful lightness

The way you land us both safe on the side of trusting that this both is – and isn’t – my whole story

I think you do all of this out of faith – am I right?
Faith in me
Faith that, like a holy hologram, the whole is here in every part Faith in the ragged becoming that I am

But you must also do it out of faith in yourself – am I right?
Faith that you can greet whatever is here and welcome all that is yet to come Faith in the ragged becoming that you are too

Have you noticed how you and I can be around our young ones? How we look at saplings, at puppies, at babies?
No, that’s not quite right, we don’t look, we behold

And have you noticed how they behold us too?
A small, potent, goodness-seeking missile to the heart I’m not sure which comes first?
Perhaps there isn’t a first, only an in-between

You’re safe and I’m sound You’re sound and I’m safe

Something like that

Neena Sims, January 2020

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